Support Your Local 3rd In A 3some - My New Slut Rules

Spiritual Journey Of A Slut
Aug 10, 2021
7 min read

Updated: Mar 27, 2022

Story time + my 3some rules. And like the title says… support your local 3rd in a 3some 😌

I just feel like I want to get this all down in a post because it’s relevant to my sexual self and it’s something I will always need to consider moving forward. Food for thought.

Ok soooo. Rules. I’ve got rules. Never had rules before but here we are. There’s some trial/error adding another person.

And especially if you are the 3rd person. In my own experience, they rarely work out how you’d like them to. Actually they never do but I mean… what ever does really? That’s still ok if it’s a good time but that’s also kind of rare-ish..

3 people, all with personalities of their own and likes and dislikes… a recipe for disaster or possibly something really fucking cool. I’m way more of a free spirit and a go-with-the-flow type of bitch now-a-days so honestly my lil slutty ass is just there for the ride which has mostly been true in my other 3somes as well really.

The problem usually has to do with the fact that I want another girl not a guy. I just haven’t ventured into the FMM territory yet and don’t really get turned on by the thought. But, if my partner at the time (in the future) wanted to I guess that’s what we are doing.

So far they mostly have all wanted another girl, too, (except 1) and then when I am the 3rd person I usually only get into FFM situations 🤷🏼‍♀️ I like one man to have 2 girlies to fuck with ya know?

My rules for being the 3rd

1) if ol’ girl is demanding and has strict and jealousy driven do’s/don’ts… I gotta go. (Sensitive issues/topics or anything like that are an obvious thing to let someone know about concerning do’s/don’ts but there’s a big difference in being uncomfortable with something because of past problems and just coming from a jealous place)… my advice is to NOT fucking have a 3some if you’re jealous. It won’t and can’t work. It took me a long term relationship with some years behind us to get there personally. Now I prefer my partner to get another partner without me being involved. I want them to be more into them and less or none at all into me. It’s what makes it fun I think. I know I’m #1… what’s there to be jealous of? Fuck her and let me watch honey or just tell me about it later tonight when you are fucking me. 😌

2) if she thinks she is daddy… I gotta go. Power struggles give me fucking anxiety through the roof. Recently, I had one myself… I got hypnotized because of it. Being submissive is fun. I accept it now and don’t care about someone else taking control. Control me honey. Don’t call yourself a slut if you just ain’t sluttin’ because your ego is in the way. And, not that I know the slut rules, but I’ve already had to struggle my way to this point so I’m just giving what little advice I do have on the matter

3) if she is doing it all just to fix the relationship… I gotta go

4) if she doesn’t understand that it isn’t all about just the 2 of them, what they want, what they can gain, etc… I gotta go

5) if she doesn’t care that her own jealousy affects an innocent 3rd party in a negative way because she only cares about the effects on her and her partner… I gotta go

6) if she claims to know how to “make” me orgasm even though I’ve already said my orgasm issue(s) in detail to her but yet she wants to be one of “those” people that says something along the lines of “you just haven’t had me yet I’ll make you orgasm I guarantee it” … first sign that I will in fact not be having an orgasm… and I was right lol.… I gotta go

7) if I gotta fake an orgasm because of the pressure placed onto me in a weird situation… I gotta go. I especially gotta go because I made a pact with myself to NOT fake anymore orgasms and here I am getting pressured into faking them and I just ain’t even about that life anymore it’s only real O’s over here or I GOTTA GO

And…

8) if she uses what I’ve said in confidence against me after the fact because her jealousy has come to a head now that it happened… I gotta fuckin’ go

9) if I feel like I’m walking on eggshells and having to dull myself down in order not to cause jealousy… they gotta fix their shit before asking me to fuck around. Also, they need to realize that there is a whole ‘nother person to PREFERABLY be sweet to and treat fairly and with that person in mind FIRST because I’m there to have a good time and did NOT ask for a shit show or sign up for one. I’ve been straight to hell and I’m tired of it there… I’ve finally somewhat found my way back and I’d appreciate the fuck out of not getting dragged back this soon. I can do it all by myself, thanks. I. Gotta. Mf. Go.

And lastly

10) LET YOUR DUDE FUCK THE 3rd or I gotta fuckin GO. I didn’t really care about this one but now that I’ve thought more on it... how lame of a time when it could have been really fun. Smh. It’s supposed to be a shared experience. Not a “you two” experience while I lay there blind. You think it’s slick to ask me to get blindfolded while you fuck me with a toy while your dude is in the shower then secretly have your dude in the room instead to “watch” but yet I’m blindfolded and have no real say so in the matter (luckily I don’t care but literally some people would be PISSED at you doing that tbh). I just simply gotta go, I know where the door is… I’ll be on my way now thanks.

Side note: I’ve never got fucked by a girl before in a 3some. I’ve ALWAYS done the “fucking” tbh. Now I know why. Me getting fucked by a “dominant” girl is for the birds honey.

It’s not my cup of tea whatsoever. But, the slut that I am just laid there blindfolded and put on my acting face because I’ve had years of practice (as have many other women). We are all actresses in our own right.

This wouldn’t even be a post right now had it not been for the jealousy coming to a head. I had told both of them over days and days and nights and more nights all together about my abortion because we all got really close really quickly (red flag I’m aware).

That personal part of my life is one of my most major life events and biggest traumas I’ve ever had in a way. It’s a sensitive topic.

I was trying to help the girl because she was complaining about how life sucks and everyone sucks and blah blah blah, I said that maybe it’s cliche but just trying to see things as not all negative is a fucking vibe… for real. Easier said than done… I’m well aware. I don’t do it great either.

But I CAN and DO do it especially when I actively tell myself I will and work towards seeing any situation as not a major catastrophe. Ya know?

I’ll need to do the same with this situation and take my own advice but… after I get my own 2 cents out into the universe because I did a lot of listening and forgiving and sweeping under the rug and not a lot of going the fuck off like I would have back in the day. I am proud of myself and feel that I am on my way to having control of the anger problem I’ve had my whole life so there’s that.

I can keep my cool and stay level headed much better than even just a few months ago. This slut is chill as fuck mostly 😅

So, she replied to me with

“if you had a child and actually raised it you’d understand better where I’m coming from”….

Ok. Bitch. Now. I. Really. Gotta. Fucking. Go. Before. I. Beat. You. The. Fuck. Up. Bye. Cya never.

Honorable mentions while I was packing my stuff to leave:

“you’re stupid” (no you are just mad that someone might be as smart as you are and 10 years younger. And, you are normally accustomed to being the smartest in the room)

“you are close minded” (let’s all laugh together on that one… that’s a first I swear I’ve never been called close minded in MY LIFE… I’m a lot of things but close minded is not and has never been one of them)

“get the fuck outta my house” (as I’m trying to get the fuck outta her house when she said it lol) and

“you’re 10 years younger than me!” (Yeah bitch and I’m about to kick 10 of your mf teeth down your throat 😌) *the anger problem lingers don’t get it twisted*

I didn’t say any of that to her, I remained calm, didn’t raise my voice, didn’t call her any names. I’m finally becoming someone that doesn’t need to react based on emotions alone and I am thankful for that. It’s a big step in the right direction.

so to get this anger out I’ll say this here instead….

Don’t ask me to fuck you and then treat me like shit because I agreed to fuck you. And don’t fucking do it for selfish reasons. Sex is important to me.

Hi… hello… there’s another person in the mix with her own set of values and morals and opinions, etc.

Also one with a touchy sexual past and my own set of triggers and problems. I’m not trying to have sex with people willing to treat me poorly because they only care about their own relationship.

If you care about your relationship…

STOP BITCHING AT HIM (and me) IF HE JUST TALKS TO THE GIRL YOU BROUGHT THERE TO FUCK. WE WERE LITERALLY TALKING ABOUT NORMAL EVERY DAY INNOCENT THINGS LIKE FRIENDS DO.

I could cut the tension with a knife multiple different times. You are “too grown and 10 years older than me” to be acting like that. THE END.

shew I feel better already lol this anger problem will be cured in no time… I’m just kidding I know I still have a lot of work to do. I’m trying my best.

oh and PS: fucking me doesn’t fix your jealousy problem. I promise.